Remember, it is your ceremony and I am here to assist you in making the day memorable. Do not hesitate to include your own changes.



Sharing of the Wine

(very nice if background music is played during this portion of the ceremony)

Throughout history, in nearly all cultures and traditions, the sharing of a cup of wine has been used as a universal, central moment of sharing during significant moments. For many it symbolizes the celebration of the harvest, the changing seasons of life, or the ultimate personal sacrifice which others have made on our behalf. Wine is, after all, the result of years of hard work, the tender care of the grape, a thoughtful mix of ingredients, the patient fermenting, and the unique flavors of each year. So it is fitting that the couple take their first cup of wine as husband and wife, to not only celebrate all that has taken pace in their lives to this point, but as an expression of hope and faith in the harvest of their lives, the commitment they make, the sacrifice of all whom has made this moment possible.

The Wine Ceremony is symbolic of the pledges you have made to one another to share together the fullness of life.  Wine has certain properties that are sweet and bitter representing "Life's Journey".  As you drink from one cup, you acknowledge to one another that your lives, until this moment separate, have become one.

Wine Ceremony

Elrod pours wine into goblet and holds it up and says.

The years of life are as a cup of wine poured out for you to drink. This “Cup of Life” contains within it a wine with certain properties that are sweet and symbolic of happiness, joy, hope, peace, love and delight. This same wine also holds some bitter properties that are symbolic of disappointment, sorrow, grief, despair, and life’s trials and tribulations. Together the sweet and the bitter represent “Life’s Journey” and all of the experiences that are a natural part of it. Those who drink deeply from the “Cup of Life” with an open heart and willing spirit, invite the full range of challenges and experiences into their being.

This “Cup of Life” is symbolic of the pledges you have made to one another to share together the fullness of life. As you drink from this cup, you acknowledge to one another that your lives, until this moment separate, have become one. Drink now, and may the cup of your lives be sweet and full to running over." 

(Elrod  hands glass to groom, who drinks, then hands it to bride, who drinks, who passes it back to Elrod.)

Elrod: As you have shared this cup of wine, so may you share your lives. May all the sweetness that it holds for you be the sweeter because you taste it together. May you find life’s joys heightened, it’s bitterness sweetened, and all of life enriched by God’s blessings upon you.



Unity Wine Ceremony

Bride and Groom, you have just unified your relationship by the lighting of the Unity candle. You will now further partake in a covenant pledge agreeing you will commit yourselves to one another throughout your lives, truly becoming one in spirit.  Today, this relationship is symbolized through the blending of these two individual containers of wine.

The red wine symbolizes the physical.  It represents the blood of the body, as well as the red clay of the earth.  It also represents the emotions we as human beings express while we are alive in the physical world.

The white wine symbolizes the spiritual.  It represents the purity of hearts and minds and the holiness of our relationship with God.

 In blending the two wines together, then partaking of the newly made wine, you demonstrate your intention of bringing together both your physical body and the holiness of your souls to this marriage; bringing all that you are and all you can hope to be into a special relationship; one blessed by God.

Bride and Groom, as you partake of the wine, please know that just as the wine cannot ever be separated and poured back into the individual containers, your marriage now represents the same.